The Family Behind WOW MOM & Wife

Hello, and welcome to motherhood where the points don’t matter and your mind is made up. You will love these little crazy people who call you mama. No matter how many times you have their bodily fluids on you, no matter how many times they throw the toy car at you, and even when they have decided that it was actually the blue cup that they wanted. We are to love and be loved by these amazing little people as long as we shall live.

Hi, I’m Barbara. I’m a Mom to two amazing little girls. Zoey is my wild 2 year old. She is so sweet and caring. She loves to cuddle and build engines with daddy out of blocks. She is the one who made me a mommy almost 3 years ago. Emma is my little princess. At 9 months old, she has me wrapped around her little finger. She likes to eat from mommy, eat from mommy, and sometimes she will play with her sister and daddy.

My kids’ daddy, the most amazing man in the world, is Sam. We have been married for 3 and half years now. (Go ahead do the math). Sam is my Mr. Amazing, my light in the darkness, the cheese to my macaroni. I love him more than anyone else. I could have never imagined a man as amazing as Sam. Mad props to God for making THE perfect man for me. He is everything that I’m not, and I’m pretty sure he feels the same way about me.

Ok, enough about my perfect family. This blog is for me, the mom. I start my day by downing as much coffee as I can while feeding the baby, changing the diapers, making the breakfast, and watching the Today Show. I’d like to say that it’s easy being a stay at home/work at home mom, but it’s not. I’m always doing something when all I really want to do is sleep. I do love this life though. I would not trade my position as a mom and wife for anything else.

Why We Are Not Sending Our Kids To School

Our kids are young, but Sam and I have already made the decision to teach them at home. It wasn’t even a decision that we really had to make. We have always agreed that we don’t want our kids going to a school. The only thing that our kids can get at school that I can’t give them at home is socialization, but there are other ways to get them out of the house and with other children that are their age.

There is so much violence schools. There are adults in the schools who have crossed the lines of keeping children safe. For example, the recent case of the Tennessee teacher who kidnapped a student. There are so many great teachers who want the best for their students, but there are some who have lost the passion that lead them to be a teacher.

 Fortunately, I didn’t get a teacher like this until I was in High School, which was already a hard time for me. I don’t even remember the teachers name, but I remember that both my older brother and my older cousin had trouble in her class. She was not nice. In her class, all we really did was copy notes and read. She did not interact with us at all, and she got upset when we asked questions. She was an angry lady.

The scariest of all violence that happens in schools is shootings. According to the Huffington Post, there were over 200 school shootings from the beginning of 2013 to the end of 2016. That’s not a number I’m comfortable with. That averages to about one a week. The odds are not in our favor here. Any number of school shootings is not ok, and would make me extremely uncomfortable to send my kids to school.

Moving on from the scariest of scaries, I also want my kids to enjoy their childhood. I want them to be able to focus on being kids and not growing up to fast. Both Sam and I worked in a daycare before we had our children and some of the stuff that we saw was shocking. I did not make it through my first week there before hearing a 3-year-old talking about her boyfriend. Some people may say that this is normal or ok behavior, but I’d like daughters to be a bit older and have more confidence in themselves before they start all that.

Also, I just don’t agree with some things that our culture says is ok, like someone using the bathroom that doesn’t match their scientific natural gender defined by what’s in their pants. I would never condemn someone who is LGBT, but I want to take time to explain the differences to my kids. Schools will tell my kids that what they’re doing is right and that everyone should be questioning their “gender identity,” but I don’t want that for my kids.

Me and Sam believe that we are responsible for our children and keeping them untouched by the culture we don’t agree with until we have prepared them to stand strong.

 Lastly, we don’t think that schools are doing the best with teaching our kids the stuff that they really need to know. Granted, some things may have changed since I was in school, but not everything has. Along with math, science, and history we want to teach our kids life skills. I never learned in school how to get a job. No one taught me how to fill out an application, dress for an interview, and prepare for said interview. I also did not get any lessons on managing money until I was in my second year of college.

I want the curriculum that my kids learn to prepare them for life and to help them reach their full potential as adults. I want their learning to be built on who they are and what they are passionate about. Obviously they will not LOVE every lesson, but I want for them to have the freedom to learn about things that spark their interest. If one of my daughters shows an interest in political science, or how the brain works, I want them to be able to explore that, because who know what they could become.

Homeschooling may not be an option for everyone, but for us it is the only choice. We are wholly determined to not send our kids to school despite the sacrifices that will mean. We may not be able to buy a big house as soon as we want and I will have to work hard to teach them the best that I can, but we will make this work!

Holy Bananas I Have a Blog

I have been so distracted lately. I cant believe I forgot about my blog. I need to get on some sort of schedule, because I really want to keep this going! So what has had me so distracted? GOALS!!! I am now determined to replace Mr. Amazing’s income so that he can eventually quit his job. How amazing would it be for Zoey and Emma to have 2 stay at home parents?

My new adventure is with the giant monster Amazon (well, Amazon and Ebay.) Hello world of E-Commerce. Seriously this adventure combines some of my most favorite things like shopping, research, shopping, making money, shopping, and selling. Basically I’m finding the good deals, buying, and then selling. It has been pretty fun, but it has kept me very busy. I would not be able to do this without my awesome husband helping with the slack. He is so great.

Right now, I am super excited to have the weekend off. Seriously, I have been working that hard. I’m ready to spend some time being lazy with my husband and girls! Oh they are so cute. Princess Emma is still not sleeping through the night, but she has started crawling; and Princess Zoey is 2. She is DEFINATELY 2 years old, and she is so silly.

Goodbye until next time internet 🙂

 

 

 

Getting My Toddler Moving

I know a lot of people may have trouble getting their toddler to settle down, but what about moms who want to get their toddler more active. My 2 year old, Zoey, if the kind of girl who could just sit and read for hours.  ( Maybe not hours, but you get the point.) She loves books, coloring, her leap pad, and Disney Junior. I love how smart my girl is, but I see that she has a need for more. It’s not natural for a toddler to be still. She has a need to move around, and it’s my job to give her the opportunity and tools to do that.

Here is my plan on how I’m going to get Zoey moving.

The Leap Pad

I am going to put her Leap Pad in storage or sell it until she is older. I love that she already knows how to use technology. It’s important considering the tech driven world we live in, but maybe now isn’t the right time for her to have it. I have noticed some serious behavioral problems after she has had the Leap Pad for any amount of time. I think that she doesn’t know what to do with herself after having it.

Getting Myself Active

Sure running around after a toddler all day and taking care of the baby is hard work, but I also need to get some exercise. I want my daughters to see me putting forth some effort to take care of myself.  To get myself active, I’ve started taking the girls for a morning walk around the block at least once a week.

Dance

Toddlers love to dance, and it’s easy to make happen. Putting on music will get her moving and give me a mood boost every day.

SHOPPING

I love shopping, so this is the fun part for me. This is the list of what I’m buying to help with the process of getting Zoey moving. If you want to see these on Amazon, you can just click on the picture. If you do buy something through one of my links I do get a small payment. Thank you for contributing to my family.

Little Red Tricycle – Isn’t it so adorable? I can’t wait to see Zoey riding around on it.

 

Mini Trampoline – I have been debating on getting this trampoline for probably about a year now. It was almost her Christmas present.

Umbrella Stroller – Ok, this isn’t for Zoey, but I do need something to push my baby around in on our walks.

Ball Pit and balls – I technically already have this, but we are using an old pool that keeps deflating. We got this for Zoey’s first birthday and she LOVED and still loves it. This is the best deal I could find on balls for it.

 

This is only a plan. I know that I may not stick with every part of this plan, but some of it will stick. In a few months, I’ll make a post to update everyone on how it all worked out.  If you have any other tips for getting Zoey active please share in a comment.

My Rough Day Survival Guide

Rough days happen to all of us. The baby is crying from teething, the toddler is throwing a fit because she doesn’t want to wear pants and you haven’t even had coffee yet. Maybe something happened that totally caught you off guard and has you feeing sad and distant. What’s important during these times is to keep yourself grounded so that you can carry through and take care of the kids and all of the other stuff that just has to be done.

Here is a list of what I do to put on my big girl pants and keep going

Escape

Sometimes you just have to get away. Maybe leave the kids with hubby (or anyone you trust) while you go somewhere by yourself. If you can’t do that, there is another way. There is the bathroom, the magical land where mom can be alone, sometimes. Put the baby in a playpen, crib, swing, or somewhere you know they will be safe. If you have an older kid, get them busy with something like a show, book, or whatever catches their attention. Then all you do is go to the bathroom (not literally, unless you have to.) Take your phone and browse Pinterest for 5 minutes. If baby is crying, know that he/she will be ok while you prepare yourself to be the best you can for them.

Look at your little one

This is so important. It can be easy to get stressed and frustrated with those little cuties who know exactly how to push your buttons. My oldest daughter is 2 now. She definitely knows how to push my buttons, and she is not afraid to do it, but when I take myself out of the situation and look at her for who she is (my amazing little girl), it makes it easier to let it go and move on.

Call someone

Mom, thank you for always being available. When I’m so frustrated I just need to talk to someone, I call my mom. She helps me to remember that frustration is just part of the journey, and she distracts me from what happened to get me stressed or frustrated.

Pray

You don’t have to be spiritual or go to church to be able to pray. Seriously, just asking God for help knowing what to do can help you figure out what your precious little one needs.

Music

Put on some upbeat music! Even if you don’t feel like it, put on Happy by Pharrell Williams. My favorite song to put on is Shake it off by Taylor Swift. Just putting on the music can help you to let go and focus on your own happiness and the happiness of your family.

Get out of the house

Being cooped up in the house with the kids can get exhausting on both moms and kids. I know that if my toddler doesn’t get outside a few times a week then she starts to get bored, and when she gets bored she gets a little crazy. A change of scenery can make a huge different in her behavior.

Tell Hubby

I am so lucky to have Sam. He is amazing. Sometimes just telling him what’s going on can make me feel better. However, I usually get lucky and get some special alone time when he knows it’s been a particularly hard day. If he knows that I’ve had a hard day, then when he will help more with the kids so I can escape for an hour to pull myself back together.

 

Hard days happen to all of us. What’s important to remember is that it will end. Even if your hard day has turned into a hard week, know that an end to the craziness will come.

 

 

Hello Fellow Mommies

I’m writing my first blog post. Yay! Starting this blog is something that I have wanted to do for a while now. I am excited for the opportunity to share what I am learning about being a mom and a wife. I started my journey 3 years ago when I married Mr. Amazing and we got pregnant with our first baby girl, Zoey. I have to admit that in the beginning I could not have sucked more at being a home maker and knowing what I needed to do for Zoey. But now, I think I’m starting to get a handle on this.

Seriously, it’s hard for me to believe that I am a wife and mother. Sometimes I look at my life from the eyes of my 18 year old self, and I am amazed at where life has taken me. I am 3,000 miles away from where I grew up. I’m married to probably the best man on planet earth (sorry he’s mine), and I have 2 beautiful baby girls. I consider myself very blessed to be able to stay home with my silly Zoey and my sweet Emma.

When I was a teenager I would never have imagined that my life would bring me here, and that I would become the women I am. All I want is to be the best that I can for my family. I want to take care of them, and I want to give my daughters the best childhood and opportunities that I possibly can. I’m sure that’s what every mom and wife wants, but it can be difficult to accomplish. It takes a lot of skill, patience, and determination.

I am absolutely not an expert at any of this, but I am learning. I hope that through this blog I can help another mamma who has found herself totally lost in trying to navigate the ups and downs of building a family.